CHAPITRE IV - Seduction of a girl with the aim of the marriage

( Voir App. 1).

A poor man but of good qualities (caste, beauty, science), a man of tiny family and having only inferior qualities, rich neighbour, young man under the custody of his father, his mother or his sisters, can get married only to a girl whose heart they tried hard to gain ( win ? ), since its childhood.

So, a young man who lives at his uncle's will try to become attached the girl of this uncle, or some other girl in the house or in the houses which he frequents, even though she ( it ? ) would have been promised to the other one.

« This behaviour ( canal ? ), says Gopotamoukkà, is justifiable in every case; because she ( it ? ) always leads ( drives ? ) to the fulfillment of Dharma ( the religious duty). »

When a young man will so have cast devolved sound or his love on a girl, he ( it ? ) will constantly try hard to please him ( her ? ) by all the means in his ( its ? ) power.

When he ( it ? ) notices that she likes ( loves ? ) him ( it ? ), he ( it ? ) dedicates entirely to satisfy all his ( its ? ) tastes and to get him ( her ? ) all the pleasures which she looks for. When she ( it ? ) comes back from holidays ( name-days ? ), he ( it ? ) offers him ( her ? ) bouquets, festoons for the head, the ornaments and the rings for ears.

First of all, he ( it ? ) takes care to put in his ( its ? ) interests the foster sister of the girl; then he ( it ? ) teaches him ( her ? ) sixty four means of sexual enjoyment used ( employed ? ) by the men ( people ? ), and praises him ( her ? ) his ( its ? ) talents in this kind ( genre ? ).

So good figure is always dressed well and adorned and made as possible; because the girls are in love with men ( people ? ) of their intimacy who are beautiful, of good appearance ( mine ? ) and always adorned well [42].

[ Note 42: to See in N 8 of the Appendix: « the councils of Ovide. »]

A girl always betrays her love by some signs or acts such as the following ones. She ( it ? ) never faces the man and tries ( feels ? ) some embarrassment and the shame when he looks at her ( it ? ) ( App.2). Under some excuse, she shows him ( her ? ) her members; she ( it ? ) looks at him ( it ? ) in secret when he ( it ? ) goes away from her, lower ( dim ? ) the head when he ( it ? ) sends him ( her ? ) some question and answers him ( her ? ) with confusion and by unfinished sentences; she likes staying for a long time in her company, speaks to her following ones on a particular tone, to draw her attention when he ( it ? ) is for a certain distance, is anxious not to go away from the place where he ( it ? ) is, takes some excuse to make him ( her ? ) look at various objects, tells him ( her ? ) slowly anecdotes to prolong the conversation with him; She ( It ? ) kisses and presses a child that she holds sat ( based ? ) on the knees, makes graceful or funny gestures when her maids hold him ( her ? ) pleasant comments in front of the man who captivates her ( it ? ), shows to his ( her ? ) friends of the confidence, some respect and some respect, testifies of the kindness to his ( her ? ) servants, listens to them attentively when they speak to him ( her ? ), or speak to some other one of their boss, goes ( surrenders ? ) to him when she is committed to it by her foster sister or by some opinion of her domestics, to converse and play with him; she ( it ? ) avoids being seen by him there neglected, him made put back ( hand ? ) by some friend her ( its ? ) ornaments of ears, rings and festoons of flowers that he asked for to see; she ( it ? ) carries ( wears ? ) constantly all the objects of which he made for him ( her ? ) present, shows itself sorry when his relatives ( parents ? ) speak to him ( her ? ) about quite other pretender, and gets angry against whoever rest ( support ? ) a rival.

Here are some verses on this subject:

« The one who recognized by outside signs the feelings that a girl has for him, has to make all that it is necessary to unite with her. He ( it ? ) will captivate every girl by childish games; a big young lady, by her talents (in Kama doubtless), and a person who likes ( loves ? ) him ( it ? ), by means of intermediaries in whom she trusts. »

When the lover possesses the heart of the girl, he ( it ? ) finishes seducing her ( it ? ) by different means, such as these.

When he ( it ? ) is with her, in some game ( set ? ) or some exercise, he ( it ? ) takes him ( her ? ) hands with a marked intention; he ( it ? ) practises on her the different embraces described in Soutra.

Sometimes, he ( it ? ) shows him ( her ? ) a notch made in the sheet ( leaf ? ) of a tree and representing two coupled lovers; he ( it ? ) goes into raptures in the sight of the new buttons of flowers and new sheets ( leaves ? ) of the push of the sap, at the time of the flourish (App. 2).

He ( It ? ) describes him ( her ? ) his ( its ? ) agonies, tells him ( her ? ) a beautiful dream which he ( it ? ) made about the other women.

To the assemblies of the caste, he ( it ? ) takes place near her, and, under some excuse, he ( it ? ) gets ( touches ? ) her ( it ? ), place his ( her;its ? ) foot on his, touches him ( her ? ) slowly and gradually the fingers of a foot with his and presses them with the end of the nails.

If he ( it ? ) is not pushed away ( repelled ? ), he ( it ? ) will take then his ( its ? ) feet with the hand and will squeeze ( tighten ? ) them delicately. He ( it ? ) will also press him ( her ? ) a finger of the hand between the toes, when he will happen to get up; all the times when he ( it ? ) will receive from her or will give him ( her ? ) some object, he ( it ? ) will demonstrate to him ( her ? ), by his ( its ? ) manners and the expression of his ( its ? ) glances, all the love which he ( it ? ) feels for her. He ( it ? ) will throw ( cast ? ) on her the water which we shall have brought him ( her ? ) to rinse itself the mouth (App. 4).

When he ( it ? ) will be with her in an isolated place, he ( it ? ) will make for him ( her ? ) loving caresses by painting him ( her ? ) his ( its ? ) passion, without disturbing her ( it ? ) however or hurting ( damaging ? ) her ( it ? ) there whatever it is.

All the times when he will sit next to her on the same bench or the same bed, he ( it ? ) will take him ( it ? ) aside by saying to him ( her ? ) that he ( it ? ) needs to maintain him ( it ? ) in particular, and then he ( it ? ) will express him ( her ? ) all his ( its ? ) love by signs rather than with words. He ( it ? ) will take him ( her ? ) the hand and will place it on the forehead ( front ? ); if she ( it ? ) is at him, he ( it ? ) will hold ( retain ? ) him ( it ? ) under excuse there to prepare for himself ( itself ? ) some medication which can be effective only if the hand also puts in herself ( itself ? ) in it.

When she will go away, he will ask her ( it ? ) insistently to mean seeing him ( it ? ), and when, become familiar, she will often visit him ( it ? ), he will have with her of long conversations; « because, says Gothakamouka, whatever is the love of a man for a woman, he ( it ? ) succeeds with her only due to speaking to him ( her ? ) (App. 5).

Finally, when he sees that the girl is completely subjected, he can begin to enjoy it.

When a man cannot reach ( affect ? ) him ( her ? ) only this result, he ( it ? ) will use ( employ ? ) the foster sister of the girl (App. 6).

This one will decide on her ( it ? ) to come to see him ( it ? ) at him and everything will take place then as he ( it ? ) has just been said.

For lack of foster sister, he will send towards her one of his handmaids who will be made the friend of the girl and will work for him.

He ( It ? ) will see to it to meet with her in all the public and private meetings, and when he ( it ? ) will be in private meeting with her, he ( it ? ) will enjoy it. « Because, says Vatsyayana, at the right time and place convenient, the woman does not resist to the one that she likes ( loves ? ) (App. 7).